People in New York may not have heard about the sperm donor that's
being sought to pay child support in another state. The state is demanding
the man pay
child support for a 3-year-old girl of a lesbian couple. The donor is fighting what
many see as a dangerous precedent.
The man signed an agreement with the couple back in 2009 indicating that
in exchange for his donation, he would not be held liable for child support
and was giving up any parental rights to the child. When the child was
born, no father was listed on the birth certificate. The couple still
co-parents their children even though they are no longer together. The
mother of the three-year-old in question had to quit work due to an illness
and asked the state for financial assistance.
The state then turned to the donor for child support. The state claims
that the agreement signed by the parties was not valid since a medical
doctor did not perform the insemination. The donor's lawyer has indicated
that that this logic puts sperm donors at risk since a woman could potentially
inseminate herself and then demand child support.
Any man in New York that has, or would, donate sperm may agree with that
logic. A man that finds himself in a situation where he is being asked
to pay child support for a child he doesn't think he is responsible
for may benefit from seeking advice and assistance on how to handle the
matter. Just because the state tells a man he is the father of a child
doesn't necessarily make it true, and there are legal options for
those involved to consider both before and after the decision to help.
Source: The Huffington Post, "Kansas Sperm Donor For Lesbian Couple Faces Child Support Suit From State," John Celok, Dec. 31, 2012