Everyone makes mistakes -- some are just bigger than others. There are
times when two people who thought they could spend the rest of their lives
together discover that just isn't possible and find they want a divorce.
New York couples who find themselves in this position may be better off apart.
Sometimes, couples need to satisfy themselves that they have tried everything
to stay together. After all, no one likes to give up without giving it
their all. However, there are a lot of couples who end up getting along
better after a
divorce for various reasons. People feel free to pursue dreams they couldn't
when they were married, their health can improve, they become better parents
--these are only some of the positive effects that can result when couples
review their situation rationally. They may realize that divorce is the
best decision for each of them, as individuals and as a couple.
Making the mutual decision to divorce is only the first step. The task
of separating two lives can be daunting and even frustrating at times.
However, if a couple resolves to be amicable and work together, the process
can be managed successfully. That isn't to say that there won't
be an emotion roller coaster at times, but if the parties agree to be
civil to each other, it can be done. If the couple has children, resolving
to be amicable through the divorce process may help them adjust more easily.
In order to give a family the best chance of an amicable divorce, couples
need to be aware of the New York family laws. There are multiple issues
that will need to be dealt with, and identifying those issues and dealing
them may require the help of an experienced legal hand.
The more issues that the couple can deal with amicably outside of a courtroom,
the better. However, if there is an issue that the couple can't readily
agree on, the courts are there to help. Instead of continuing to fight
over those issues, it may make things easier to agree to abide by a judge's decision.
Source: Forbes, "The Seven Virtues of Divorce," David DiSalvo, Aug. 23, 2012