Many in New York may not realize that the last two decades has seen a marked
increase in couples over the age of 50 getting divorced. A good number
of these couples from the baby boomer generation have been married more
than 30 years and are now deciding to get a divorce. It's a trend
that has been brought to light by the divorce announcements of celebrity
couples such as Danny DeVito and Rhea Perlman who have been married for 30 years.
There are some very practical suppositions about this sharp increase in
what are termed "gray divorces." One of the main reasons may
be that with the children grown and on to their own lives, the couple
no longer has anything in common and has fallen out of love with each
other. In a time when marriages are for happiness and not for convenience
or child rearing, many older couples are parting ways.
Another reason may have to do with the independence of this generation
of women. They are the first generation of women to be earning their own
money in great numbers. Many of these women believe they can take care
of themselves and no longer need to stay in a marriage that is no longer
fulfilling. The days of staying married because they are financially dependent
on their husband may be over.
Getting a divorce after 30 or 40 years of marriage when there are most
likely no minor children at home can make the process easier. New York
couples in this situation may be more capable of working together toward
a settlement that works for both parties. Alternatives to a litigation,
such as mediation or a collaborative divorce, may allow the couple to
avoid unnecessary acrimony and achieve a fair and complete settlement.
Source: CBSNews.com, ""Gray divorces" increasing sharply,"
Oct. 13, 2012